What made your day a crap one??

(Continuing) insurance quibbles after an old man decided his lane was less adequate than the side of my car last year.

Missed delivery. Not the end of the world but no calling card which is 'useful'.

Work being, well, work. People as useful as a chocolate-teapot-weilding-snowman in hell, everywhere!

Another headache.

To summarise; everyone and everything is p*ssing me off right now. :) Mais, ç'est la vie.
 
So more of a what's made my fortnight crap really.

My old ruptured disk/neck injury has been playing up again leaving me with pain and nerve jangles round my left shoulder and along the top of my left arm. Fairly normal but it's also been making my left ear fizz(sensation not sound) and the left side of my head sort of numb which is worse than usual. So I'm not on form.

My first week for the girls back at school last week made interesting by the eldest starting at her new school and due to the dearth of after school care for eleven pluses, going back to her mum's until I finish work. Now that was hard work to keep arranged and costly.

So second day in I forget to give her bus fare for her homeward journey, she forgets to ask, I've always just dropped her off and picked her up. Two mile walk home to her mother's, her phone doesn't work but being independently minded she doesn't ask a teacher for bus fare or use of a phone. Just sets off get's lost and takes an hour going home. Hello my name is MUD! much apologising and promising it won't happen again later and I'm thinking well her mother took that well!

Nope! My 80 yo mother receives emails from her And her mum... containing various moans and complaints from the real to the extrapolated covering the last eleven years. Cue some rather tense pick ups after school but arguments steadfastly avoided.

Saturday after gymnastics I go to drop them off and her mother has travelled from Cambridge to help her ambush me (strangely the rather Amazonian care lady was there as well!?). They were like two terriers at a rat. After the all too familiar realisation that whatever I say will be wrong I try to retreat. The ex mother in law gives chase shouting " I'll deal with your mother then little boy" (I'm 51) and trying to push me out of the house. The girls, of course have been present through all this and get to witness their Nanan slamming the door onto my hand (on purpose? probably) as icing on the cake. Ouch! they let me back in, the care lady who's been sitting with her head in her hands gives me some tissues for the blood annnd! they start again.

Discretion valour and all that, I make my escape. Defo a hospital job and it's my right hand so I go and ask a neighbour for a lift to Casualty. My eldest joins me and won't leave, we all get in the car. As we're pulling out of 'Albert Square' my youngest comes running out and clambers in. My last view behind is of the rather forlorn form of my ex watching us all go.

The girls were brilliant in A&E keeping me entertained and distracted. They were fascinated by the visual inspection of my tendons and the youngest even climbed on the gurney for a better look. The stitching was cool as well - for them. My eldest held my good hand and fed me Skittles through it all. Proud and gutted all at the same time.

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Six stitches and a tad of nerve damage - lucky really.

I didn't want to take them back afterwards.

Oh yes and on Monday I went to have blood taken for a health check and for the first time ever they missed the vein! I have veins like straws just below the skin but no, not this week.

AND there is still at least one SODDING BASTARD MOUSE in the wall behind my bed.


And I'm out of rum!

Sigh
 
So more of a what's made my fortnight crap really.

My old ruptured disk/neck injury has been playing up again leaving me with pain and nerve jangles round my left shoulder and along the top of my left arm. Fairly normal but it's also been making my left ear fizz(sensation not sound) and the left side of my head sort of numb which is worse than usual. So I'm not on form.

My first week for the girls back at school last week made interesting by the eldest starting at her new school and due to the dearth of after school care for eleven pluses, going back to her mum's until I finish work. Now that was hard work to keep arranged and costly.

So second day in I forget to give her bus fare for her homeward journey, she forgets to ask, I've always just dropped her off and picked her up. Two mile walk home to her mother's, her phone doesn't work but being independently minded she doesn't ask a teacher for bus fare or use of a phone. Just sets off get's lost and takes an hour going home. Hello my name is MUD! much apologising and promising it won't happen again later and I'm thinking well her mother took that well!

Nope! My 80 yo mother receives emails from her And her mum... containing various moans and complaints from the real to the extrapolated covering the last eleven years. Cue some rather tense pick ups after school but arguments steadfastly avoided.

Saturday after gymnastics I go to drop them off and her mother has travelled from Cambridge to help her ambush me (strangely the rather Amazonian care lady was there as well!?). They were like two terriers at a rat. After the all too familiar realisation that whatever I say will be wrong I try to retreat. The ex mother in law gives chase shouting " I'll deal with your mother then little boy" (I'm 51) and trying to push me out of the house. The girls, of course have been present through all this and get to witness their Nanan slamming the door onto my hand (on purpose? probably) as icing on the cake. Ouch! they let me back in, the care lady who's been sitting with her head in her hands gives me some tissues for the blood annnd! they start again.

Discretion valour and all that, I make my escape. Defo a hospital job and it's my right hand so I go and ask a neighbour for a lift to Casualty. My eldest joins me and won't leave, we all get in the car. As we're pulling out of 'Albert Square' my youngest comes running out and clambers in. My last view behind is of the rather forlorn form of my ex watching us all go.

The girls were brilliant in A&E keeping me entertained and distracted. They were fascinated by the visual inspection of my tendons and the youngest even climbed on the gurney for a better look. The stitching was cool as well - for them. My eldest held my good hand and fed me Skittles through it all. Proud and gutted all at the same time.

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Six stitches and a tad of nerve damage - lucky really.

I didn't want to take them back afterwards.

Oh yes and on Monday I went to have blood taken for a health check and for the first time ever they missed the vein! I have veins like straws just below the skin but no, not this week.

AND there is still at least one SODDING BASTARD MOUSE in the wall behind my bed.


And I'm out of rum!

Sigh
Order some rum off amazon! Or ask someone politely to get you some! Either way, you've earned it.

I can't dress it up, that is a crap couple of weeks. Again though, your girls pulled through for you. Good dad = good kids from what I can tell! Glad they enjoyed the gruesome scenes as well! :D
 
So more of a what's made my fortnight crap really.

My old ruptured disk/neck injury has been playing up again leaving me with pain and nerve jangles round my left shoulder and along the top of my left arm. Fairly normal but it's also been making my left ear fizz(sensation not sound) and the left side of my head sort of numb which is worse than usual. So I'm not on form.

My first week for the girls back at school last week made interesting by the eldest starting at her new school and due to the dearth of after school care for eleven pluses, going back to her mum's until I finish work. Now that was hard work to keep arranged and costly.

So second day in I forget to give her bus fare for her homeward journey, she forgets to ask, I've always just dropped her off and picked her up. Two mile walk home to her mother's, her phone doesn't work but being independently minded she doesn't ask a teacher for bus fare or use of a phone. Just sets off get's lost and takes an hour going home. Hello my name is MUD! much apologising and promising it won't happen again later and I'm thinking well her mother took that well!

Nope! My 80 yo mother receives emails from her And her mum... containing various moans and complaints from the real to the extrapolated covering the last eleven years. Cue some rather tense pick ups after school but arguments steadfastly avoided.

Saturday after gymnastics I go to drop them off and her mother has travelled from Cambridge to help her ambush me (strangely the rather Amazonian care lady was there as well!?). They were like two terriers at a rat. After the all too familiar realisation that whatever I say will be wrong I try to retreat. The ex mother in law gives chase shouting " I'll deal with your mother then little boy" (I'm 51) and trying to push me out of the house. The girls, of course have been present through all this and get to witness their Nanan slamming the door onto my hand (on purpose? probably) as icing on the cake. Ouch! they let me back in, the care lady who's been sitting with her head in her hands gives me some tissues for the blood annnd! they start again.

Discretion valour and all that, I make my escape. Defo a hospital job and it's my right hand so I go and ask a neighbour for a lift to Casualty. My eldest joins me and won't leave, we all get in the car. As we're pulling out of 'Albert Square' my youngest comes running out and clambers in. My last view behind is of the rather forlorn form of my ex watching us all go.

The girls were brilliant in A&E keeping me entertained and distracted. They were fascinated by the visual inspection of my tendons and the youngest even climbed on the gurney for a better look. The stitching was cool as well - for them. My eldest held my good hand and fed me Skittles through it all. Proud and gutted all at the same time.

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Six stitches and a tad of nerve damage - lucky really.

I didn't want to take them back afterwards.

Oh yes and on Monday I went to have blood taken for a health check and for the first time ever they missed the vein! I have veins like straws just below the skin but no, not this week.

AND there is still at least one SODDING BASTARD MOUSE in the wall behind my bed.


And I'm out of rum!

Sigh
It's a shame the girls had to see and hear all of that but still jumped in the car with you to go to the hospital so they know what's what and will not be brainwashed by your ex wife and ex mother in law, they sound like a couple of great kids who obviously love their Dad.
Your ex wife sounds like a very bitter woman and the ex mother in law sounds like a proper witch and I do feel for you, been there, done that.
Your poor mother, 80 and having to put up with you being trashed via email, this is of course done to try and make you loose your cool and say or do something that will make the ex feel justified and give her much needed ammunition so you did well by trying to retreat because as you quite rightly say, you wasn't going to win no matter what you said and to keep your cool after having the door slammed on your hand.....well you have more restraint than me which is all for the good.
All of this on top of your physical problems.....no wonder you have run out of rum!
You're doing well keeping it together and you have a couple of lovely girls who love you so dont get too down, and if having a rant on here helps well rant away, I'm sure there are many others who have been through or are going through the same kind of thing and will understand what you must be going through. Hang in there. P.
 
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Second timr this week I'm being reminded of that song about why Mick can't come to work today, ( 'cause he met the bloody bucket coming down ! ). Speaking as someone whose wife and her mother wouldn't speak to me for nearly a week I'm in no position to offer advice/consolation/general old duffer meanderings. You're in a shit position, getting dealt a shitload of shit and yet you've still got to watch your step because of child access. Like B/Monkey says, if you want to vent feel free either on the ' crap day ' thread or durect in a pm. We can't help, but we'll listen.

JohnnyO. o/
 
...Hit's the nail on the head...

Thanks man. I am comforted by the fact I no longer face the prospect of living with her for the rest of my life, merely associating with her and her Mother is easy by comparison.

Thanks @JohnnyO venting is occasionally needed, as BM spotted it's all just power games and not rising to it pisses them off more than anything else. It got out of hand this time because they couldn't handle me being polite and calm and smiling at them when they wanted a fight. Their insults might not have cut me to the bone but the door certainly did. Another few years and they'll be reaping what they have sown, both my girls have good hearts but they are stubborn little critters and they know right from wrong.

Funny thing is the ex and her mum are both such terrible snobs but act like scrubbers. Next time I might try humming the East Enders tune at them.


If thou dost marry, I'll give thee this plague for
thy dowry: be thou as chaste as ice, as pure as
snow, thou shalt not escape calumny. Get thee to a
nunnery, go: farewell. Or, if thou wilt needs
marry, marry a fool; for wise men know well enough
what monsters you make of them. To a nunnery, go,
and quickly too. Farewell.
 
Order some rum off amazon! Or ask someone politely to get you some! Either way, you've earned it.

I can't dress it up, that is a crap couple of weeks. Again though, your girls pulled through for you. Good dad = good kids from what I can tell! Glad they enjoyed the gruesome scenes as well! :D

Rum from Amazon I hadn't thought of that good idea. I've seen my eldest since (taking round the rest of the stuff from the cut short handover) and Cara has been full of the excitement of seeing the inside of my finger and told the ex and her mum and presumably school ALL about it...
 
Thus far: Yesterday I phoned the local RSPCA to enquire about a dog I saw there Saturday, prior to Tuesday morning as advised (background, I'm familial to one of the staff there, so am known to most staff). Fourth time in trying, I gave up trying to speak to a person and left a message, asking that someone phones me back regarding the little woofer. Heard nothing so tried phoning a number of times today only to ring out to answer-phone or have a user busy tone. Eventually, I got to speak to someone who stated they didn't catch my number because the message was too quiet. They said that I sounded quiet on the phone, but proceeded to let me know they'd turned the speaker up. I enquired, again, about the dog and was told there's a lot of interest. Fair enough. I asked whether the dog in question was dog friendly as I'd had a dog there before (my little Daisy :) ) and they then admitted they didn't know as they didn't have the assessment details in front of them and were a volunteer. I asked that someone could phone me back to arrange a viewing and find out more about the dog, sorted. I asked why no one had picked up the phone in the attempts yesterday and this morning when it had rung through and their response was 'our line is usually busy'. At this point I gave up and said 'okay, tarrah'.
Cue, an hour later, had a phone call from another staff member. They stated that the dog has a lot of interest and someone was going to be seeing him shortly, on a first-come-first-served basis (granted, I'd probably have been close to first in line had someone picked up the phone yesterday afternoon - slight annoyance). I asked whether he was good with dogs and the response was 'um yeah', followed by a long pause. They then said 'well the ball is in your court', with no explanation or further to this statement. Amidst me stating that I'd discuss with the OH and get back to them, they'd hung up.
Not a major issue to fuss about, but I really felt like they couldn't have cared less about my potential adopting of a dog from them. Furthermore, it's not the first time I've potentially missed out on a dog due to their lack of answering the phone - it happened previously about a month ago. I passed it off as 'it wasn't meant to be' but given this situation its apparent it's not a one-off.
Bah! Rant over.
 
Thus far: Yesterday I phoned the local RSPCA to enquire about a dog I saw there Saturday, prior to Tuesday morning as advised (background, I'm familial to one of the staff there, so am known to most staff). Fourth time in trying, I gave up trying to speak to a person and left a message, asking that someone phones me back regarding the little woofer. Heard nothing so tried phoning a number of times today only to ring out to answer-phone or have a user busy tone. Eventually, I got to speak to someone who stated they didn't catch my number because the message was too quiet. They said that I sounded quiet on the phone, but proceeded to let me know they'd turned the speaker up. I enquired, again, about the dog and was told there's a lot of interest. Fair enough. I asked whether the dog in question was dog friendly as I'd had a dog there before (my little Daisy :) ) and they then admitted they didn't know as they didn't have the assessment details in front of them and were a volunteer. I asked that someone could phone me back to arrange a viewing and find out more about the dog, sorted. I asked why no one had picked up the phone in the attempts yesterday and this morning when it had rung through and their response was 'our line is usually busy'. At this point I gave up and said 'okay, tarrah'.
Cue, an hour later, had a phone call from another staff member. They stated that the dog has a lot of interest and someone was going to be seeing him shortly, on a first-come-first-served basis (granted, I'd probably have been close to first in line had someone picked up the phone yesterday afternoon - slight annoyance). I asked whether he was good with dogs and the response was 'um yeah', followed by a long pause. They then said 'well the ball is in your court', with no explanation or further to this statement. Amidst me stating that I'd discuss with the OH and get back to them, they'd hung up.
Not a major issue to fuss about, but I really felt like they couldn't have cared less about my potential adopting of a dog from them. Furthermore, it's not the first time I've potentially missed out on a dog due to their lack of answering the phone - it happened previously about a month ago. I passed it off as 'it wasn't meant to be' but given this situation its apparent it's not a one-off.
Bah! Rant over.
I can understand your frustration, from what you have said it does seem as if these volunteers need a little training if they are to answer the phone and deal with the public in an efficient maner and if found that they have not got the skills to pick up a phone and be Profesional then they should be left to the dog walking duties and kennel cleaning ect. I hope you can find a companion for your little Daisy and re home a dog in need of a caring owner. P.
 
I can understand your frustration, from what you have said it does seem as if these volunteers need a little training if they are to answer the phone and deal with the public in an efficient maner and if found that they have not got the skills to pick up a phone and be Profesional then they should be left to the dog walking duties and kennel cleaning ect. I hope you can find a companion for your little Daisy and re home a dog in need of a caring owner. P.
What frustrated me is that I expressed an interest on Saturday, prior to the dog's assessment, in person. I asked that they call me as they've my number and they said no that I should call them Tuesday morning (fair enough). I tried phoning Monday afternoon and Tuesday morning and nothing! No answer!
I believe the person who hung up on me is a permanent staff there... Doesn't give me much faith if I'm honest!
Also, I've just broken the news that they were less than helpful to the OH... needless to say I'll need to steer clear of her tonight! :D She's in a less than amicable mood, currently... :p
 
Sorry for this rant guy, I have to vent some!

So 2 months ago my crown broke during a holiday.

After I came back the dentist made a new one and fitted it, but it started to hurt, and after 6 weeks I had to have a rote cannal done. Man that night was terrible the pain was not nice (only had paracetamol and naproxen and that did not work so good) so no sleep that night. Now we are 1 week further and still when I eat my bottom left hurts, and I have been getting headaches straight (from the tooth ache) for 6 weeks already now yesterday he made my left insicor a little longer said that I could slide my bottom jaw easier to the left.

This morning I had my oats so no pressure there and it did not hurt much, lunch I had a soft sandwich(no hard crust) and intentially chewed on the left (been eating on the right side for almost 2 months) and then the lingering dull pain was back.

Now almost 2 hours after eating it is gone again, but I know when I start eating it will be back
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So I have a new appointment with my dentist on Thursday morning hopefully he can sort something out for me for the weekend.

And I hope this will subside soon

Rant out
 
You're not alone in probs dealing with the RSPCA, Benz. After a bad expeience with our Scots version, the SSPCA, we've always dealt with breed rescue volunteers for our english bull terriers and bulldogs. They almost invariably have done an interview and home check on initial application and then contacted us when they have what they consider a suitable dog come available. In some cases this has meant a dog coming straight from its' last home to us without having to be kept in kennels; the assesments having been carried out on the dog by a volunteer with their own dog(s) and/or children. In every case the breed rescue group have continued follow up checks and support on the dogs. We've had 4 rescue bullies and a bulldog over the last decades and the enthusiasm and dedication of the volunteers puts the professionals to shame in our experience.

JohnnyO. o/
 
Asbolutely @JohnnyO! It's a shame that things were so smooth first time round getting our Daisy and since then it's been like banging our head against a brick wall! I've just happened to check up on dogs for adoption nearby (through pets4homes) and there's a lovely little, young dog up for adoption nearby. I've since contacted the current owner and they've been entirely forthcoming and open and are keen to organise a visit with Daisy to see whether they get on! A nice turn to an otherwise frustrating day!

Also, great choice in dog. I'm a huge fan of Staffies personally but we're looking for something similar in size to ours - cynical thinking but if the worst were to happen and they were to have a fight, we'd want it to be an even footing. Volunteers do tend to get things right if they're in the right environment. I think it's a case of understaffed and mismanaged in the RSPCA, generally speaking. Of course there are places which exceed expectations but I've not had particularly great experiences with them, unfortunately. In fact, my sister works for the one nearby me (hence familial connection) and she's adopted a vast array of animals from them, circa 8 ferrets, 3 dogs, 4 cats, 2 rabbits, a tortoise... the list goes on... It was her birthday recently and her OH bought a puppy for them, to break the mould of having a (usually) troubled dog - she tends towards the ones which are more 'unadoptable'. The branch she works at caught wind and gave her some terrible grief for it. Bit childish as, although she's not adopting in that instance, she's done her fair share as far as that's concerned and it's not as though she'll be putting it up for adoption! My rant over.

@Kamp - hope the tooth/teeth get sorted mate. I did some work experience in a dentists years ago and the only person I had to comfort in my 2 weeks there was a 40-something, ex-navy, biker having root canal treatment! Nasty stuff!
 
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