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Well said Donnie. Everyone looks for points of difference but humanity is a lot of common experience, albeit people look at things differently. It's especially sad when people who are suffering are told 'weak faith' when really, those who say that should perhaps realise compassion would be more appropriate. Like when people say if you're cursed you must have done something to deserve it, which is obviously BS and it says so explicitly in scripture.
I think there is still some stigma, but also I think those who haven't suffered similar issues often find it hard to understand and so try to rationalise it away. I have no skills or special knowledge but I'm always happy to listen to someone who tells me they're having a tough time. Sometimes it's all you can do, but also it helps massively just to talk to someone who 'gets it' and doesn't try to offer solutions. I think it's also a blokey thing, that when someone tells you a problem, you think that you need to solve it.
Bumped into my neighbours yesterday, we've lived opposite each other for 14 years, I often engage in a bit of small talk with him, (I generally get on with most of my neighbours who actually talk!) Anyway he came home with his Mrs, they'd been down the pub, obviously had a great day, he was pretty well away, gave me a great big hug and said its nice to have proper neighbours. Then his wife did tell me he's ex army and pretty distraught about Ukraine kicking off, plus his dad is very ill, and so is hers. Hard to get that lot out of your mind but he needed a break and a few scoops probably did him the world of good. You never know what people are carrying around on their backs, especially when we're all brought up to deny/play down such things. I'm not quite from the 'stiff upper lip' generation but it was still encouraged.
I think there is still some stigma, but also I think those who haven't suffered similar issues often find it hard to understand and so try to rationalise it away. I have no skills or special knowledge but I'm always happy to listen to someone who tells me they're having a tough time. Sometimes it's all you can do, but also it helps massively just to talk to someone who 'gets it' and doesn't try to offer solutions. I think it's also a blokey thing, that when someone tells you a problem, you think that you need to solve it.
Bumped into my neighbours yesterday, we've lived opposite each other for 14 years, I often engage in a bit of small talk with him, (I generally get on with most of my neighbours who actually talk!) Anyway he came home with his Mrs, they'd been down the pub, obviously had a great day, he was pretty well away, gave me a great big hug and said its nice to have proper neighbours. Then his wife did tell me he's ex army and pretty distraught about Ukraine kicking off, plus his dad is very ill, and so is hers. Hard to get that lot out of your mind but he needed a break and a few scoops probably did him the world of good. You never know what people are carrying around on their backs, especially when we're all brought up to deny/play down such things. I'm not quite from the 'stiff upper lip' generation but it was still encouraged.
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